loving self

May 16 2018

Self-Worth and Self-Compassion Healing

At the root of many of life’s imbalances lies an imbalance around self-worth. I have seen people with self-worth trauma energy who could not manifest healthy relationships, could not sleep, could not find a fulfilling job, could not stop drinking or using drugs, whose bodies constantly hurt, who could not lose weight, who were chronically depressed, and who could not stop beating themselves up daily over just about everything. Self-worth trauma energy is elusive, hard to diagnose, difficult to recognize in oneself, and challenging to heal. Despite its pervasive impact, it is not something most of us want to confront. See Loving of Self for more on this general topic.

You may know you have low self-esteem, chronic imbalances or are not fulfilling your dreams. Odds are, though, that you hardly ever connect these observations with self-worth trauma energy. Self-worth trauma energy is most often buried in the subconscious, unconscious, and supra-conscious (soul) levels. You may be unaware of its presence or impact on you.

The absence of compassion for self can be seen when you constantly push yourself or always need to do more to feel effective and worthy of admiration. Self-compassion trauma energy is present when you judge, berate, or criticize yourself in your mind or in public. This trauma energy is also present when you cannot forgive yourself wholly for past actions, words, or deeds or when you negatively evaluate your body, personality, likability, or appearance.

My son recently observed that the best way to address self-worth trauma energy is through compassion for self. To be able to do this, both self-worth and self-compassion trauma energies need to clear from your energy field to make space for healing. After these trauma energies have cleared, both self-worth renewal energy and compassion for self also need to be called into your energy field.

Next, you need to consider whether or not self-worth and self-compassion trauma energies might both be gene-induced from your hereditary lines. Are these familial patterns you have seen in parents, grandparents, cousins, or aunt and uncles? If so, the presence of these issues may well be genetic in nature.

Lack of self-worth and compassion for self can also come from any type of abuse, violence, or life trauma energy such as loss of a parent or sibling. Additionally, if a life trauma occurred before you were seven, you may have no awareness of it. If you grew up in a household of folks constantly pushing themselves, compassion for self may have rarely ever been experienced. Any of these traumas may be unknown to you at the conscious level.

Therefore, you need a systematic way to address all these issues. If you have the slightest inkling that you may carry these issues, here is an approach for healing these issues and all their symptoms. Keep at it until you get the desired results. All spiritual work needs to be done in Sacred Space.

Self-Worth and Self-Compassion Healing Protocol Steps, (Steps 3 and 4 of the Six-Step Spiritual Healing Protocol).

Use the Six-Step Spiritual Healing Protocol (6SSHP) for this work unless you have advanced to using the Divine Healing Protocol.* Repeat the 6SSHP for each work section given below. This wording is for Steps 3 and 4 of the 6SSHP . Fill in the other steps from the 6SSHP as you do the healing. You may need a few days to complete this series of work.

For each of the steps below, speak the “call” aloud with conviction. No previous experience is needed here for success!

Genetic rebalancing

I call for the turning off of all genes( specific number if available) contributing to gene-induced self-worth trauma energy and all symptoms and I call for the turning on of all genes ( specific number if available**) needed to support self-worth development. Extend this to my entire genetic line.
I call for the turning off of all genes( specific number if available) contributing to gene-induced self-compassion trauma energy and all symptoms and I call for the turning on of all genes ( specific number if available**) needed to support compassion for self-development. Extend this to my entire genetic line.

Self-worth and Self-compassion trauma clearing

I call for the clearing of self-worth trauma energy and all symptoms.
I call for the clearing of self-compassion trauma energy and all symptoms.

Clearing for abuse, violence and life trauma energies

I call for the clearing of abuse trauma energy and all symptoms including self-worth and self-compassion trauma energy
I call for the clearing of violence trauma energy and all symptoms including self-worth and self-compassion trauma energy
I call for the clearing of life trauma energy and all symptoms including self-worth and self-compassion trauma energy

Call in self-worth and self-compassion

I call in the energies of self-worth and self-compassion to flow into my physical, energetic and auric fields bringing positive changes for my body, mind, and soul on a continuous basis until these energies fully manifest.

*Use each step of the Six-Step Spiritual Healing Protocol. If you are fully competent with the Six-Step Healing Protocol, you can use the shorter process of the “Divine Healing Protocol” instead of using the full Six-Step Spiritual Healing Protocol. For more, see: Is There a Shortcut to the Six-Step Spiritual Healing Protocol?

** Those using pendulums in Sacred Space or those with auditory or sensory knowing may get specific numbers.

Apr 05 2018

Clear the FEAR

Fear is on my mind today. Fear comes in many forms. We hear about it on the news, we read about it in other media, we feel it with our relationships, children, health, job, travel, government, and the environment. Fear is with us constantly UNLESS, we clear for fears frequently.

If you do nothing else for your spiritual health, make a habit of clearing away your fears. This will truly lighten your energy and bring peace to your thoughts, dreams, interactions, and body. There are 365 references to fear in the Bible, one for every day. This is a really good indicator that fear is as present as air, water, and sky. The unique truth about fear, however, is that because we create and feed our fear, we can also command fear right out of our energy fields.

Fear does not need to be a constant companion always lurking in the background. If you try to ignore fears, they just remain and actually grow within because you are ignoring them. You are not meant to carry fear so if you are carrying fear, it will make itself known in many ways as your soul’s way of saying, pay attention to this fear! You have to name those fears you do not want to look at and command them out of your energy field.

Some of the big fears are fear of how we look, feel, present ourselves, and interact with others. Fear of being alone, unloved, unhappy and saddled with an unhealthy relationship are prevalent. Fear of being a failure, not measuring up, not making a contribution, not feeling important, not making a difference, not finding a good place to be and not having a way forward are truly present in epidemic proportions. Fear for our loved ones, for our world, of losing our partner or child, of falling apart and fear of death rate right up there in the top one hundred. Just reading about all these fears can dampen one’s sense of wellbeing. Imagine what living with these fears does to us! It is not a pretty picture.

You often keep these fears hidden from your consciousness as a way of thinking you are not being affected by them. However, this is fallacious thinking. If you have a fear anywhere in your field, it affects you whether or not you are conscious of it and whether or not you are hiding from it. The only way to be free of fears is to name them and command them out of your energy field. Otherwise, the fears fester and grow. Consider taking up this cleansing and profoundly freeing approach to spiritual health. It is an easy thing to do.

1. Use the Six-Step Healing Protocol to open Sacred Space and begin

2. Name the fear, such as fear of panic-attack trauma energy and all symptoms

3. Follow the six-steps to clear the fear from your field

That’s it. Your body, mind, and soul will thank you profusely by coming into greater and greater balance.

Feb 08 2018

Healing Me

Interested in an easy way to clear stuck energy to help yourself heal? Read on!

You are exactly where you are to be no matter what is going on for you or not happening for you. If, however, you are in a place you do not want to be for any reason, there are options that can aid you in working more quickly through the undesirable times. The question that is the most helpful when circumstances are not to your liking is, “What do I need to release so these feelings can change?” For any unpleasant situation, there is something we can release to improve our response to the unpleasantries.

Perhaps you are living with chronic pain. You may feel you have tried everything. You may feel angry, defeated, debilitated, afraid of never being free of pain again, or feel profoundly sad or sorry about the things you love and can no longer do. You may be living a greatly reduced scope of life while trying to live with daily pain.

You may be living with a child who refuses to apply himself to his studies. You as the parent might have carried the energy of worry, feeling defeated, blame, anger, fear for your son, impatience, or sadness around his lost options. There may be major consequences for him that are also worrisome for you such as his having to attend summer school, beginning to see himself as incapable and not very smart, not getting into college or a program for further study, or his dealing with classmates making plans for after graduation.

All worries and feelings you have regardless of the specifics can be taken into a Sacred Space for clearing from your energy field. This can happen within a few minutes after you determine what specific blocked energies you are carrying. No therapy sessions are needed, no continuing to bury your feelings is needed, and no obsessing about the future is needed. If you want to effectively address some imbalance challenging you, go straight to my free tutorial for easy step-by-step instructions and an audio introduction from me to get you started.

After you do your own clearing, you can also use the tutorial to work with others being impacted by the circumstances. For example, you can clear for a friend’s fear of flying, or a spouse’s misgivings about upcoming retirement. You can even clear for your own responses to another’s challenges facing them such as your worry, fear or impatience with their process.

Usually, the major issues keeping people from doing this work have to do with their thinking too small about available options. It is easy to assume there is nothing you can do to make the situation better. Through my work with thousands of people, I know that clearing the blocked energy you have about any undesirable situation makes the situation better. This process of naming and clearing imbalances yourself is open to every person in human body.

Take a chance and gift yourself with 15 minutes for three days to work through a challenging dilemma you are facing. Sign up for this free tutorial now. It’s a quick start to using the Six-Step Spiritual Healing Protocol. Anyone can do this! Try it and then let me know your experience.

Feb 24 2011

Suffering and Sorrow: Released

All suffering and sorrow feelings are due to un-forgiveness energy. Where there is sorrow, there is un-forgiveness energy. The two exist together. What can we do about sorrow and suffering energy?

Head in Hands by Alex E. Proimos

Craig and Dana have been married 18 years. They love each other, are happily employed, have two children and are healthy. However their sex life by their own report has always been difficult. They have a long history of missed opportunities, guilt feelings, sadness energy, failure and frustration energy with each other sexually. Yet there is love on both sides for the other. They have “tried everything” including therapy, changing techniques, weekend get-aways with support groups, videos, talking with trusted friends. They have yelled, accused, defended and attacked each other repeatedly through the years. They have also tried calmly taking with each other about what is missing, wrong and not working.

After years of deep sorrow and frustration, we talked about forgiveness. Their work began with forgiveness of self for all their perceived failures, the years of unsuccessful attempts at loving intimacy and for their own judgments they held about their partners.

This is what it looked like. Dana would sit in silence and ask to be shown places of un-forgiveness she carried about herself regarding her sexual relationship with Craig. She would sometimes get a snippet of a past conversation, a fragment of an argument or a memory of a specific weekend where she had sobbed in great anguish. She would focus on one of these images from the past and say, “I forgive myself totally and completely.” She might say this 20 or 30 times or more if the pain was especially raw. Sometimes she cried so hard, she reported having to write out the forgiveness statements because she could not speak them aloud. Sometimes the same situation or memory would surface again weeks later and she would have to forgive herself all over again.

Craig was following his own process as well. He tended to remember specific times where he felt he had failed and worked through those scenarios at first. As these receded in intensity, other memories presented themselves where he had been deeply sad, then others where he had been frustrated and eventually times of feeling guilty surfaced. Both Dana and Craig were led in Silence to different processes for their individual work.

When they got to a place where no more need for self -forgiveness was coming up, they switched to forgiveness of each other. Slowly, slowly compassion for self and for each other began to surface. They were able to spend intimate time together in tiny steps with no expectations. The beginning steps made without the mantel of the past led to more trust, more success, more expressed loving wholeness over time. They began to find their way together by retuning to forgiveness of self and each other when they hit more road blocks. They both reported success in their efforts to spend intimate time together. They also reported that throughout their entire lives, they were seeing new evidence of this forgiveness energy working and smoothing out other challenges they faced.

Forgiveness work, whatever the topic is, has to begin with ourselves. We have to forgive ourselves for what we see as our anger, sadness, mistakes, ignorance, etc. This is the only way we can totally and completely forgive another person from the heart. Both parts of this process, forgiveness of self and of another have to be taken together. Forgiveness of self allows the forgiveness of another to fully manifest. If we do not see our own brokenness and sorrow and move to release it from our energy field, we will never be able to forgive another wholly and completely. Suffering and sorrow then remain with us in our energy field.

Karl was divorced by his wife after 22 years of marriage. They were in counseling for a year before the divorce was final but his wife felt the situation was irreconcilable. When I began working with Karl, he was still very angry, deeply hurt, with feelings of abandonment, mistreatment and rage. He could not feel any energy for a new relationship even 4 years after his divorce. He felt betrayed through no fault of his own.

Anguish Ian (or:The Scream) by sparktography

When we began talking about self-forgiveness, he was totally closed to this. He was divorced by his wife after all. Karl told me his wife was the one at fault and he had nothing to forgive himself about. We continued to talk about his feelings around this divorce and eventually we tried a session in sacred space, where he simply said, “I forgive myself totally and completely”, over and over until it felt complete for that day. There was no image of what that forgiveness might be about specifically. He worked with this for several weeks and eventually the dam broke and he was able to grieve the loss and forgive himself for all the things he was blaming himself for, which he could not see nor name at the time.

Divine Grace was present in these sessions working with his unseen energy, unseen by me and by him as well. Nonetheless, the forgiveness progressed and in time he also did the needed work in forgiving his wife. He eventually began to date other people and reported he was a different person completely from who he had been in his earlier marriage. He tells me he still uses that process especially around things he does not understand but knows are out of balance.

Steps to take when suffering and sorrow are present.

1. Create a sacred space by saying, I open a sacred space with my I AM Energy/Eternal Self/Spiritual Self and Divine Presence in the highest forms ( angels, ascended teachers, divine ancestors, nature intellegences, etc.) to help me forgive myself.

2. Sit quietly to settle into the sacred space. Set the intention of your work by stating in your mind that the forgiveness work is around your marriage, your relationship with your mother, the loss of your child or spouse, the relationship with your boss, specific abuse or trauma you have experienced, etc.

3. Begin silently to yourself saying, “I forgive myself totally and completely“. Repeat this until you feel this in your heart. You might put your hands on your heart as you are saying this.

4. If you try this for 15 minutes and feel little or nothing, try this. “Sacred Flame from within me, consume any blocked emotional, mental, self-protective ( thermal) energy, spiritual energy or curse energy I am manifesting which is keeping me from being able to forgive myself. I command this stuck energy out of my field, now. Thanks be to God/All That is. ” Wait 5 minutes in this energy.

5. Return to #3 again. If this is still not working, write this out in a journal, again and again. However, remember to open a sacred space within which to work. This is most important!

6. When you feel no more un-forgiveness of self is present, which could take days or months, use this same process for others in your situations. “I forgive ___________ totally and completely.” Even when you are working with the death of another, do this part of the work. Often we are angry, sad and out of balance with a loved one for having left us here without them.

Sunset and balancing rock stack by James Jordan

This process works because when we open Sacred Space we engage our Eternal, Spiritual Selves and all the Loving Presence of All That Is to help us heal. When we surrender to loving forgiveness, we return to our natural state of balance which has left us due to experiences in the past. We come into the present and thereby heal from the past.

Jan 12 2010

Loving Oneself to Wholeness

Whenever Joyce looked in the mirror, she was angry with herself and angry at her body and mad with the world. She was heavier than she wanted to be and had been that way for over 10 years. The negative messages were really getting more and more self-punishing. “You are good for nothing, you are a lazy bum, you are ugly, ugly, ugly, you are a failure”, etc. Saying that everyday was like taking a poison bath in the morning. She often had to have three cups of coffee to counteract the lethargy that immediately descended upon her after taking her shower, where she also saw her body in the mirror. Somewhere in the recesses of her mind she thought that saying such awful things might motivate her to do something about her weight and general health. These raw self messages though made her feel worse and worse over time.

Bob feels a deep loneliness in his life which descends upon him regularly on Friday evenings. He has been through lots of relationship but none of them have worked out.

He wants to be in a great relationship where he can love and be loved. He spends weekends going from bar to bar hoping to meet someone of interest. That is mostly depressing and he often comes home with his insides churning from a sense of failure. He has lost weight, is increasingly down and has nearly constant indigestion at this point. This malaise is creeping into his weekdays as well. His thoughts are filled with images of being alone and of feeling unlovable. Bob is still trying out new places on the weekends but he is pretty sure he will continue to fail.

One way to work out negative feelings towards ourselves is to do something or find some place where we do feel good about ourselves and hope it transfers to the areas we are beating ourselves up about. Giving to others is a tried and true way to generate love within. We can also try new things such as diets, dating services, exercise, reading other’s stories, or travel in the hopes of finding something to blast us out of where we are. All these steps could bring us some relief.

We probably all know if what we are doing does not work, we need to try something else. However, realizing we are doing the same thing over and over again which is not working, is the kicker. Something about a familiar though unhelpful pattern is better than the unfamiliar, more risky option. Clearly though, repeating what is not working is a road to more pain.

What to do? TAKE THE FEELINGS INTO SILENCE FOR HELP.

Imagine there is a space inside of you where you are truly loved, because there is. Imagine that you can go there whenever you want to, because you can. Imagine that there is a plan for you full of abundance and joy, because there is. Simply sit and speak to the Divine Universe, which is all ears.

Devon on the mountain by Maya De La Rosa-Cohen

People ask me what I do in Silence. I open the space with Divine Energy. I invite all Divine forms of energy to join with me for the purpose of creating more wholeness and peace. I am still for as long as I can be which varies by the session. Then I scan my sadness and my fear and I speak of it out loud so that I can call in Divine Help in alleviating the stuckness I feel. Working with Divine Intervention, Knowing, Love and Presence informs and fuels my intention to feel better about myself. When I release my sadness and my fear, I feel better. When I call in Divine Intervention right into the source of my sorrow and sense of failure, I experience a shift in the heaviness of carrying those misperceptions I have been feeling.

Each person has internal Light which we were born with. It may be dimmed though through unloving messages from our growing up, due to traumas in our lives or by unloving messages from our own personal fears.

We have not however come here without a rudder, without direction, or without purpose. The feeling though of sailing without a rudder may well be an indication that we might go within and ask for help. When we do this, we then have to wait knowing that we have been heard and we will get all the help we need. This help may not be in the form we expect to receive it. This help may still require us to do something new, to risk.

If you are not sure you “have done enough to get the help you need” here are a few pointers.

1. Do not judge by appearances. If you go into Silence and then immediately go out and do just exactly what you have done before the Silence, like berate yourself, simply stop. Accept that you are between unhealed and healed, which you are. Realize that you have moved closer to wholeness, through that realization alone. Congratulate yourself and let it go.

2. Talk to yourself in a loving way, such as, “this thought is not loving and has no power, so I let it go.” ” I am lovable and capable.” ” I am getting all the help I need even though now, I do feel lousy.” ” I call into my life good thoughts and feelings about myself and ask for help in guiding me to people and places where this can occur.”

3. Ask once and give it time to manifest in your life. Do not pick up your issue every day and re-ask for the same help, as if you have not been heard. If you can’t help doing this, figure out what fear you are still carrying that is fueling this response. It could be the fear of not deserving any help in this life. A feeling of fear can completely block your receiving the support you seek. Go after the fear face on! Call for the Light to dispel this fear you have. Fear has only the power we, ourselves, give it.

Love is the absolute way to Wholeness. Love and joy are ours when we face our fears and let them go. Loving oneself manifests Wholeness. When we face tough issues alone though, we often can’t access enough Love ourselves to shift our energy. That is one MAJOR reason to work through it with Divine Presence which is within. There is ALWAYS enough Love to take us to Wholeness if we seek within, in the Silence.

The first step towards Loving oneself to Wholeness is often the hardest. Ask, seek, sit in stillness, scan for fears and sadness and wait holding the space for shifting energy. Wholeness can come to each and every one of us. Love is everywhere present, all knowing and all powerful. Loving oneself is one major highway to Wholeness. Try it and let me know what you find.