Who is to judge what is right and wrong? When is speaking out called for? When is accepting the point of view of another, called for? Most of us are not heads of government but each of us is influential somewhere, at work, at home, in communities, in our spiritual groups, etc. When we do feel called to speak out, how might we do this in our highest integrity?
In the end, these questions can only be answered individually. We may connect with others answering as we are, but ultimately, we are called to keep our own counsel and keep it with Divine Presence, the best way we can.
- First and foremost, do no harm.
- Secondly, do not resist evil.
- Thirdly, speak the Truth as you know it.
- Fourthly, face all human darkness with the power of the Divine Knowing.
These are principles which are in alignment with All That Is for all peoples. However our interpretation of what this looks like can be wildly different from one to another.
The most challenging stance when deciding to speak out or not is, can one speak out in a non-judgmental way? Judge not, lest you also be judged is one of the fundamental spiritual principles in alignment with do no harm. Why is this so important?
We are each and every one on our own spiritual path. Some of us are highly conscious, some of us are barely conscious and some of us are not conscious, at all. Being conscious in this situation refers to being connected with Divine Presence and aware of that connection. We can not know another’s level of consciousness. Therefore, we are in no position to judge even about those who are the closest to us.
The “right” behavior or choice for one may not be “right” for another due to his or her conscious knowing. Take for example a person who steals or smuggles. Immediately we might say, that is always wrong, regardless of the circumstances.
If we are in a situation where all ways of making money have been closed to us as we see it, and the only way to survive day to day seems to be to steal or smuggle, we may be in integrity because we are trying to provide for ourselves and our family. This might well apply to the children, for example, forced to smuggle along the Afghanistan and Pakistan border. The judging of this is only for Divine Knowing to determine. We are not that Knowing, generally.
What we can do is speak out about the injustices we see without condemning the people doing these things we have issues with. The same thing goes for our children and family members. We may have a very rebellious child who is pushing all our buttons by trying to express him or herself in ways we find offensive and dangerous. There is a huge difference in speaking out about one’s behaviors or choices and becoming angry and critical of the person who is making these decisions regardless of their age. Separate the behaviors from the person and love can still remain while we are speaking out about the choices we find troublesome. Confuse the person with the actions in a condemning way and we have crossed a line which is extremely damaging to most people. ( to be continued)
Ellen says
The last part of the blog is SO important in dealing with children…I am going to try to keep that in mind always with my grandchildren…separate the actions from the person…..it really made me think. Of course , it applies to all interactions but esp with the little ones who are just forming. Thanks
Robbins says
It can be hard to apply when we are exercised about a child’s behavior but when we do separate behavior from the child, love remains present to help with the interaction. And love heals all things!! Thanks for the comment.